Dating isn’t easy.
How honest should you be? How much of yourself should you reveal? How long can you keep up being your best self?
And then—as if it wasn’t hard enough—everyone is different. Everyone. In the entire world. That’s not some spiritual bullshit. That’s scientific fact.
And that means, no matter what you do, no matter who you are, no matter who you pretend to be … there’ll be some people who won’t like you. Ever.
The more you pretend to be someone else, the more some people won’t like you. The more you try to be the best version of you, the more some people won’t like you. That is an undeniable reality.
That being said … there must be some things that are at least close to universal turn offs, right? For men and for women.
I think so.
Here they are:
I went on a date with a woman once who kept talking about how famous her family name was where she lived, and how it commanded a certain “respect”, and how I’d be lucky to experience even being a part of that. I got the impression that she thought she was better than people. I’d be “lucky” to experience being attached to her family name? No thanks.
2. Excessive complaining.
A woman I used to date always complained that she’d eat too much and then would feel way too full after a meal and that she’d have to just lay down for half an hour to feel better. She’d complain that she did it, and then she’d do the same thing over and over again. Annoying and unhealthy.
And this isn’t about body image, that I wanted her to be thinner, or that I was judging her for her appearance. It was the fact that complained about it and then did nothing. Ever. Eventually, I’d get annoyed, and I’d say “well, you could always eat less.” And then she’d get angry and sulk.