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10 Reasons It’s SO Damn Hard To Say I’m Sorry (Even When You Want To!)

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Among the most powerful words to say in healing our relationships are “I’m sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me. How can I make it up to you?”

And yet, even when we know we’ve acted wrongly, something inside blocks us from saying so or taking action to make amends.

More often, that something is a set of beliefs that act as excuses.

Excuses are assumptions that, whether conscious or subconscious, block us from taking action.

Here are the ten most frequent reasons people are SO afraid to say I’m sorry:

1. I’ll be seen as a bad person, and not appreciated for the good things I’ve done.

This excuse also distracts us from directly resolving an issue. It focuses our attention on our fears — in particular, the fear of feeling we don’t matter or contribute value in our relationships.

This is a shared experience, however. Like you, your partner is also wired to yearn to feel like a good and worthwhile person who is recognized for their contributions.

The point here is that it was our actions that were hurtful not our self as a person.

This is a vital distinction. When our actions caused some harm, the ball is in our court to restore a sense of trust and safety in the relationship.

2. I’ll have to feel uncomfortable emotions, such as shame, guilt and fear.

This excuse misdirects us to focus on avoiding pain, rather than identifying the problem.

It makes sense that you don’t like feeling vulnerable.

It also makes sense to feel uncomfortable emotions when someone is upset by our actions. It’s even useful to us!

These feelings tell us we care, and that’s a good thing. It’s a source of information that, if you’re open, can grow your understanding of the situation.

In other words: this is critical action-activating information. In contrast, ignoring the vulnerable aspects of human nature can keep us weak and fearful.

Learning how to own and to strengthen our own sense of emotional safety in a triggering situation is an essential life skill that grows and strengthens our courage and confidence in the long run.

Be open and willing to get comfortable with what is uncomfortable to you.

 
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