16 Signs You Love Someone With A SERIOUS Personality Disorder
Toxic relationships disrupt life and can introduce infinite waves of abuse and pain. It is not uncommon for individuals who have never been involved in this type of romance to wonder if their partner has a personality disorder.
Could there be an underlying neurological cause for the violating or dangerous behaviors? For some, the answer is yes.
Individuals with personality disorders have difficulty relating to others, resulting in rocky relationships. There are some with these conditions that have a high potential to traumatize their mates due to their symptom profile.
The partners of individuals with psychopathy, narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and antisocial personality disorder are often left with emotional and physical scars
For many of us, it can be difficult to determine if our partner is healthy or if their behavior patterns are indicative of a problem. Below are 16 signs of personality disorder; specifically, red flags that many with psychopathy have in their past or demonstrate when they interact with others. It is important to note that this is not a list of diagnostic criteria of psychopathy.
1. They believe they are superior to you.
Individuals with psychopathy often convey to their mate that they are superior and their partner is not good enough (e.g., “You’re stupid,” “too emotional,” “fat,” “insecure,” “always holding on to the past,” “paranoid,” “crazy”). Within relationships of this type, their partners often feel inferior, worthless or “less than.” Their mates are often kept off balance chasing after what they think will appease the disordered partner.
2. They tell you that they hate you.
After the honeymoon stage, they are often disinterested, disrespectful and abusive. Some will introduce their partner to a roller-coaster style relationship (break up and then reunite — repeat).
For many involved with a psychopath, the disrespect immediately shifts into abuse and creates a traumatic relationship for their victim. Given that the brain has a reaction and can be changed by trauma and abuse, many of their partners are left with depression, anxiety, substance use, alcoholism, and complex PTSD. Sadly, some individuals have resorted to suicide after these relationships.
3. They never accept responsibility.
Externalizing blame is quite common for individuals with this personality style. When a problem cannot be wiggled out of with deception, then reframing the violation as a mistake, joke, misunderstanding, or your hypersensitivity lessens their responsibility for the act.
4. They groom new partners.
New partners are groomed rather than courted. The difference is that one is a game or ploy (grooming) while the other approach attempts to make a genuine connection. Many with psychopathy have a grooming stage when they are pursuing a new partnership.
Grooming is intentional manipulation. Their kindness, attention, money, time, trips, and presents come with strings attached. They expect their partners to fall in line and repay when the honeymoon stage is over.