Any lesson in life is a present in disguise, but when we talk about “Love Lessons”, we indeed learn most of them way too late.
Yes, love lessons often hit us hard and sometimes, they need to hit us more than once for us women to really grasp the truth behind it!
But if I had to talk to my children and grandchildren about “Love” and the lessons that this magnificent conception has taught me, here is what I would say.
1. “I learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. All the rest is up to them. I learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. And it’s not the end of the world.” — Roger Knapp
If I had known this earlier in my life, I would not have been sacrificing my authenticity for any recognition, appreciation, or love from boys or men. As a sensitive youngster, I took it very personally if people would not love me back. I always thought something was wrong with “me”, that for some reason, I was “not good enough.”
I felt the same with girlfriends, teachers, grandparents, you name it. I never understood why they did not like me or love me as much as I tried to love and please them.
Now I know that it is not up to us to make someone love us. But it is up to us to be the best version of ourselves so that people around us can see and feel who we are and decide if they want us to be a part of their life or not.
“Don’t be a woman that needs a man, be a woman a man needs.”
And don’t forget, we have exactly that same choice! We do not have to love anyone else because they love us. The choice is totally ours!