Ever felt like you were giving a man all of the signs, and somehow he still seemed completely oblivious? Well, as a guy I can tell you that It’s probably because he was completely oblivious.
When a guy can’t seem to get a clue, sure, it might just be that homeboy’s having an off night. It might also mean he’s looking for other signs.
I imagine it’s frustrating wondering why he isn’t getting your signals. To help shed some light on this dilemma, I asked fellow dudes to chime in on how they know a woman is interested. So here are the three biggest ways men know that you’re into it.
1. It’s the way she moves.
“You will know she likes you simply by her body language,” my buddy Vince says.
I know when I used to work in a restaurant, I would enjoy spying on the couples that were very obviously on a first date. It was especially revealing when they were sitting together at the bar: How far away would she sit from him? Would she remain facing the bar or would she open up more toward him? How animated would she be in her conversation? Would she touch his arm? Or *gasp* his leg?
You don’t have to be an expert in attraction (which I am not) to know that physical touch is a pretty strong indicator of interest.
Gil says he knows a woman is interested when “she smiles back at me; she winks at me and when she starts playing with her hair, but, you know, in a way different than usual,” he clarifies. Frankly, I was surprised Gil is brave enough to use this as a sign.
And that’s another thing to note about men: we may know there’s something different about a way she’s acting, even if we can’t explain it.
For example, Zach notices what he calls the “Glistening eye,” which I have always wondered about.
Is there something actually twinkling in her eye? Is she producing extra saline? When prodded, Zach admitted, “I don’t know if it’s real. But I know it when I see it.”
Speaking of eyes, sustained eye contact is impressive, no doubt. But, according to Charles, “Things like [when] eye contact is made and then avoided and then made again,” is even more indicative of attraction.