5 Questions Smart Women Should Ask Themselves Every. Single. Day
Forget the horoscopes, the fortune-tellers and even the long-winded wine-downs with friends; the real answers to your life’s most difficult questions are easier to obtain than you might think. In fact, they’re right there inside of you.
Whether you’re looking for an answer about your love life, job or that big move, all smart women should ask themselves these five very simple questions every day; if you do, you’ll never have to put your palms out again.
1. Who am I?
No, you haven’t time-traveled back to philosophy class and there won’t be a graded test at the end, but think about it: when was the last time you sat down and really thought about who you are, right here and now? Not the person you were/think you are/have been told you were/want to be, but the person you are in this moment? You know, the one you live with 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
If it’s been a while, it’s time for a check-in. Whether it’s writing thoughts, feelings, and values in a nightly journal or taking quizzes, there are a number of ways to get to know and understand yourself better, and make no mistake: it’s not just self-indulgent navel gazing, either. The more we know who we are and what we stand for, the more protective we will be and the easier it will be to identify what and who is right for us, and what and who is not.
2. Are my actions reflective of who I am?
Gandhi once said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” A simple sentiment that can ignite some complex feelings in those of us who aren’t exactly feeling the serenity of synergy in our lives.
The reality is that many of us are walking around in confinement, moving through the motions dictated more by habit than of true consciousness. Perhaps that’s why many of us feel so out-of-sync with our homes, relationships, jobs, friendships, and surroundings.
When you push yourself to say “yes” instead of “no”, be bullied by fear, continue down a path that feels wrong or force yourself to smile politely when you feel insulted, you betray yourself and send those around you an inaccurate message about who you are, what you think and what your values and boundaries are. See how easy that can derail the many moments that make up a life?