A lot of us like to make excuses for our partner when our friends point out something that he did wrong. It is difficult to take off the pink glasses that we put on during the honeymoon phase of every relationship. However, it is very important to recognize when a once good relationship becomes unhealthy.
A very common problem in relationships is being controlled by your partner.
Here are five signs that indicate there is a problem between the two of you and it should be talked out with your significant other.
1. They do not try to accommodate your schedule
If you are living on your partner’s time there is a problem. It’s nice to have Friday as date night but if your significant other is not willing to accommodate you if you already have something planned for that day, there is an issue. This is especially concerning if your partner uses this to manipulate you into missing out on your other plans, by saying how much he misses you and can only see you on that day.
If he is not even trying to change around his schedule to accommodate yours, is he really giving back in the same way that you are? If there is no support from your partner whatsoever this is a telltale sign that you are being controlled.
2. They have a problem with your piercings/tattoos/hairstyle
When a partner tries to change you in any way, a red beacon should start blaring off in your mind. If your significant other questions why you got a certain tattoo or a certain piercing and tries to persuade you to get rid of it, he is being overly controlling.
Your significant other should love all parts of you no matter what. A relationship should be structured on unconditional love. It is not about earning someone’s love by fitting their standards.