These five actions will help you accept yourself and choose to be real in relationships:
1. Clarify your values.
Often we make choices based on what we think others want us to do or what we think we should do. Daily choices determine our life’s direction and, as a result, our outcomes.
Showing up and being real means we need to think clearly about what it is we value, want, and need for our own wellbeing. This doesn’t mean making choices without considering others, but it means our own needs are a big part in the choice we make.
2. Set boundaries.
In order show up and be real, it’s important to know who you are and what you want for your life. Ask yourself, “Who do I want to be in this situation or this relationship? How can I be real and let people know what those needs are?”
Once we know those answers, it is easier to express our needs to others and to have our needs met. Boundaries can be as simple as telling others what we will and won’t accept or what is helpful to us in a particular situation or relationship.