Developing the secure, fulfilling bond you deserve with your partner is hard work, but it is not impossible.
Below are five characteristics of every strong bond and what you can do to help create a deep, loving connection — and how to have everlasting love.
1. You and your partner must truly become best friends.
But what is a best friend? A best friend is likely someone you have known for a long time. You probably know them better than anyone. You had an initial connection based on common interests and enjoyment of each other’s company that grew into a solid, trustworthy, caring relationship. From this history, you have established a level of comfort so great that you can take risks and allow yourself to be vulnerable around your best friend. You can talk to your best friend without judgment or fear. This is a person you really love.
This kind of connection cannot be rushed and it cannot be forced. Friendship often blooms from exciting but low-pressure situations. It strengthens through communication and developing trust.
Take the time to first just have fun with your partner. Learn all you can about what they like and dislike, have adventures and make each other laugh. Know that this is a person you really like being around!
When you enjoy someone’s company, it becomes easy and even normal to open up. If you can share the best of times, you likely feel comfortable sharing the not-so-great thoughts and feelings we all experience. Open up to your partner and encourage them to share with you from a place of friendship: like a best friend would, withhold judgment unless they ask for your opinion. Always support them and comfort them. A best friend is a fellow team member, not a rival. Every truly bonded relationship begins with a team of supportive best friends.