Why Long Distance Relationships Are The Best – You won’t find a better situation for YOU.
People love to hate on long distance relationships.
They say they’re impossible to be in, and that there is no way you’ll fully be able to trust the other person to be faithful to you. They want to tell you that the distance between you will only make you grow apart, not closer, and that being in one long-term is nothing but a waste of precious time.
Well here’s the thing: all relationships are hard.
Problems exist whether you’re miles apart or just down the road from each other.
It’s two complicated human beings with emotional baggage and insecurities trying to create a sustainable partnership so they can have a successful life together. As science-y as that sounds, it means there’s plenty of room for shit to hit the fan.
Long distance relationships are different, but not necessarily harder than normal relationships. The obstacles and things you have to overcome are unique to your situation, as it is with all relationships.
And like every other relationship you will ever be in, LDRs teach you something about yourself.In fact, I’d argue that the lessons you learn from this kind of love and commitment are some of the most important ones you’ll learn in your lifetime.
When getting into an LDR, it’s normal to be skeptical. There are never any guarantees, and even if you know the person pretty well now, people always change. The scary thing about changing with distance is that you may not notice it right away. And that’s where most people get scared.
As humans we want to control as much in our lives as we possibly can.
This situation requires immediate growth because you have to let go of the reins almost completely.
You have to have full trust and faith that everything will work out exactly as it’s supposed to.You have to deal with late night phone calls, time changes, new friends you don’t know, counting down the days until you’re on a plane and on you’re way to your person.
LDRs ask a lot of us, but in a lot of ways they’re way better for YOU. Here’s how:
1. You learn how to be OK on your own.
While you’re S.O. is technically just a phone call or text away, it’s not the same as having someone physically there. In an LDR you learn what it really means to be alone, and you figure out how to do that without getting super depressed.