These seven steps are game-changers for single people who are serious about finding real love.
1. Dating is a numbers game, so meet lots of people.
I can’t tell you how many women come to me for dating advice and tell me about three guys who didn’t work out. Three men, really?
That is not even the tip of the iceberg!
You will need to meet lots of men to find the right one for you.
By lots I mean maybe 50. You might get lucky after meeting 30 men as I did or even fewer.
Or you might be like others who have dated upwards of 80.
If you know up front that dating is a numbers game and part of the process you won’t be as disappointed by any one man.
You’ll know that every man you meet brings you one man closer to the right one for you and accept that this is what is needed to find love.
2. Get over being in a hurry. Love cannot be rushed.
Are you in a hurry to find love? Do you think because you are older, somehow there is a time limit on finding love?
This is absolutely not true.
You can find love at any age when you make the effort.
Whether you are 40, 50, 60 or 70+, rushing the process will not help you find love faster.
How can you tell if you are rushing? One of the biggest dating mistakes women make is trying to get all the facts about a guy on the first date.
Trouble is, your detective work is not fun for him and feels more like interrogation versus conversation.
Of course you want to know why he got divorced or hasn’t been married yet. But this is not good first date chit chat and will likely make him feel uncomfortable.
So, if you’ve been having trouble getting a second date, now you might know why.
What should you talk about? Focus on having a good conversation about your passions and hobbies and what you want from life. You’ll get to the facts over 3 to 4 dates.
This is not wasting time!
You are taking a healthier, more open approach to getting to know a man to discover if he is right for you.
You’ll learn a lot more and gather better information when you slow down and stop grilling men.