For The Most Romantic Sex Of Your Life, You MUST Do These 5 Things
Romance comes in many different forms and, when done right, can become the living language of love between you and your partner. When you have romance in your life, it enlivens your senses and brings you closer to knowing more about yourself, your partner, your body and your life.
And while sex isn’t everything in a relationship, when you harness the power of romantic sex, it’s a very juicy (and fun!) element that can help you both feel more connected.
Romantic sex does not mean taking the entire day preparing scallops with homemade roasted pepper cream sauce, pesto-risotto cakes with a balsamic drizzle, a field greens salad with homemade dressing and paper-thin onions, German chocolate cake and a bottle of Pinot Noir. Nor does it mean lying on the dinner table in the middle of it all, wearing your best sexy red panties as your partner walks in the door after work.
What if he’s not in the mood and you get rejected? You end up feeling sad, bitter, angry or hurt because he just happened to have a late lunch, isn’t hungry or has work to finish, and you spent half of your paycheck on dinner, wine and underwear. Kind of a buzzkill, isn’t it?
This is the kind of trying too hard romance him that will make him think to himself, “What does she want from me? Am I not doing enough? I wish I would have known about this. I’ll never get my work finished now
But stop right there. This doesn’t have to be you. There are a few simple ingredients you must have to connect with him and learn how to make sex romantic.
1. Practice self-love.
First and foremost, it starts with you feeling good about you. You can tap into that through any method that works: Taking a bath, spending time with friends, getting a massage, drinking some tea or petting your cat. Whatever works, do it.
Because to have amazing romantic sex you need to romance yourself so you are coming from a good place, not a place of clinginess or desperation that reeks of “I’m not good enough and will do anything it takes to get a hint of attention!” That is not loving yourself and if you have issues with being taken advantage of in relationships, learn how to stop being a doormat and get the love you want.
2. Schedule time together.
You don’t want the scenario mentioned above, do you? You’re going to want to plan a time that works for both of you, and not just expect him to follow along because you feel like romancing him tonight. Have a discussion first about wanting to take a day off (or a few hours if that’s all you’ve got) with him.
You can let him know your availability and ask him if it jives with his. Then make a plan so you’re not left in your underwear and penniless until your next paycheck. Set up a time and a place; he will appreciate it and you will both have time to fantasize about the fun you’re about to have.