Have you ever had a friend who suddenly disappears off the social scene, changes their appearance, or gives up their goals and unique personality traits, at the beginning of a relationship? Most likely, they’ve been caught in the snare of a controlling guy.
Dating someone with control issues can begin with seemingly insignificant details, which make you feel minor irritation. When left to run wild, however, those details can cause emotional abuse, all for the benefit of feeding a guy’s need for domination.
To help you enter relationships with your eyes wide open, here are 7 early warning signs of a controlling guy.
1. He Comes on Strong
Controlling guys will often immediately come on strong, which can be very flattering initially, but is a common sign of their need for control. Feelings, especially for men, develop over time, yet a controlling man will often make you feel as if he’s falling for you straight away, by saying all the right things and investing a huge amount of attention into every detail about you.
In a short amount of time you feel like you’re the center of his universe, and usually, that’s your red flag. Controlling men know what to say to lure you in and, before you know it, you’re caught in their net (‘caught’ being the operative word).
2. Your Time is His Time
Controlling guys quickly, and with great skill, try to make you feel as if anything you do, other than things that include them, is a disruption to the life you have together.
Unfortunately, these ‘disruptions’ are often your family, friends, hobbies, or anything else that equates to your life as an individual. When a controlling man feels threatened, he may try to make you feel bad about your choices or passive aggressively make you feel guilty about doing something that doesn’t include him.
It’s flattering when someone feels and expresses slight disappointment when you tell them you’ve made previous plans; it’s quite the opposite when they hit you with the cold shoulder because of it, try to talk you out of your plans or create a sob story as to why you should be with them instead.