1. He has no outside friends or interests.
He never mentions any friends and doesn’t hang out with anyone but you. Outside of work, he has no interests or hobbies. He doesn’t go to the gym, play any sports, take any classes, volunteer or go to church. When he isn’t with you, he’s sitting at home thinking about you. Or maybe he did have friends and hobbies at one time, but he gave them all up in order to spend every minute with you.
2. He thinks you still have feelings for your ex.
He’s convinced you aren’t over your ex, even if you’ve been divorced/broken up for years and the only feelings you have for him are disappointment, pity, loathing, disgust, and a smidgen of residual hatred. His insecurity is so overwhelming that he can’t see reason and will convince himself that you couldn’t possibly love him, so the only “logical” conclusion is that you’re still in love with your ex.
3. He tells you he loves you right away.
Very early in the relationship, he professes his undying love for you. Part of you feels like Rudolph when Clarice tells him he’s cute. You could fly through the air while shouting, “He loves me! He loves me! He loves me!” But the sane part of you feels like, He loves me? Wait, what? This is our second date. That’s crazy-talk.
It takes time to get to know someone enough to love them and if your new boyfriend is telling you he loves you right off the bat, it should sound warning bells, especially if he pressures you into saying it back to him.
4. He tells you that you’re his everything.
You’re his world, the center of his universe, his reason for living. At first it may seem flattering to be valued so highly, but being the center of one’s world, isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. That’s too much pressure to live up to. And what happens when you hit a bump in the road in your relationship? When things aren’t going smoothly, his world falls apart. He falls apart because you are his world.
5. He needs constant validation.
He frequently asks you questions like, “Do you love me?” He fishes for compliments. Then when you assure him that you do find him attractive, he doesn’t believe you. Everyone likes to hear that they’re loved, pretty, talented, attractive, intelligent and desired, but his needs go beyond those of the rest of us. He generally suffers from low self-esteem, which incidentally is the driving force behind many of his insecure behaviors.