While getting eaten out is hailed as the pinnacle of female pleasure, if you’re a woman who’s insecure about smells, it can be hard to enjoy and relax without bathing first. While there’s nothing wrong with hot showers and good hygiene, the vagina, a self-cleansing organ, really doesn’t need to be filled with suds to function healthily. The common fear that your vagina smells “bad” is rooted in sexist, old-fashioned culture rather than fact. “Any body part can have a bad odor if there is an infection or if the individual practices poor hygiene,” says Dr. Michael Aaron, an NYC-based sex therapist and author of the upcoming book Modern Sexuality. “But nothing about vagina makes it intrinsically smelly except for ignorant assumptions of sex negative people.”
Rest assured, any man worth your time won’t mock your scent. Beyond understanding that the smell of vagina is normal, many guys are incredibly turned on by the scent.
“Lots of men enjoy the smell of a vagina, particularly when the woman is aroused and lubricated,” explains Dr. Aaron. “People release pheromones, a unique scent that may often be sexually stimulating.”
To learn more about what’s so stimulating about the scent of pussy, Cosmopolitan.com spoke to five men who can’t get enough.
Jay, 25, a musician in Seattle, Washington
Thinks it smells like: “Sweat, urine, and human nature.”
“My first memory of the smell of pussy is the first time my high school girlfriend was grinding against my thigh with nothing but panties on. We made out and fooled around, but kept all the touching above underwear. The thing was, her panties were super thin, and she got super wet.
I didn’t notice until I got home that night that there was a white crust on the thigh of my jeans. When I smelled it, it smelled amazing. I don’t even know what drove me to smell it, but once I had, I couldn’t stop. It’s tough to describe it, because it smells so uniquely like what it is. It’s a little like fresh sweat after a woman’s done exercising, but there’s always more to it. I hid those jeans by the side of my bed and would smell them and masturbate every night for like a week straight!
Years later, I finally told a woman how much I loved her smell. I wish I had the self confidence I have now when I was a bit younger. [My current partner] said that she was glad I loved it, because she loved being eaten out. So it was a win-win! Then she admitted that the biggest detractor for her ever playing [sexually] with other women is that she couldn’t get past the smell of pussy.
Whoever I’m sleeping with is happy that I have no qualms spending a lot of time going down on her. I always volunteer to go down on women… I mean… some men don’t? Though I have met the rare woman who said their clit was too sensitive for oral. The whole concept that some men don’t love the smell of vagina kind of surprises me… I guess I’ve been walking around assuming we all did, as I suppose it’s something in our chemistry that the smell is just meant to make you want to have sex… It just adds to the attraction!”