We all have our own unique challenges related to the way we see and interact with the world around us. The good news is that a lot of our issues could be avoided if more people were aware of the huge differences in how men and women navigate the world.
So here they are in no particular order, the 10 Biggest Mistakes Women Make In Relationships:
1. You Don’t Know Your Own Value
This might be one of the most common issues. Do you chase after the bad boys who treat you poorly and only want them more?
Are you attracted to all the unavailable guys? Are you afraid to ask for what you want? Do you put up with nonsense expecting that “one day” it will magically change? If so, welcome to the club — you are far from alone.
You, my dear, do not know your value.
The truth is that there are only two fears in the human condition: one is that you’re “not enough,” and two is that you won’t be loved.
Let’s be clear: this will keep you single until it changes. Ironically, the thing that will keep you stuck here for years (or even decades) is that no man can really respect a woman who will allow him to treat her so shabbily, so this truly is a self-inflicted wound.
I’m sorry for being so blunt, but the truth will set you free — even if it makes you angry or defensive first.
If that’s the case, don’t bother getting mad at me. I care enough to level with you so you can actually have all the love you truly deserve.
2. You Over-Rely On Your Masculine Energy
Many of my clients are highly successful women and well known in their communities. They’re doctors, lawyers, executives and entrepreneurs, but they can’t attract — or keep — a man.
Ironically, their success is oftentimes a result of the fact that deep inside, these women also have huge doubts about their self-value. (Do you see a theme here?) In fact, it’s their over-compensation that often leads to their success.
The problem only gets dramatically worse if they’re divorced or are single parents because in order to be the sole provider or protector, too, their entire day is spent living in their masculine, achiever energy. While that may be effective in paying the bills, when you spend too much time there, it’s nearly impossible to transition out of that and re-embrace your feminine energy again.
The fact is, if you can do it all by yourself, a man will look at you and see no role for himself; unless, of course, he’s looking for a sugar mama. I definitely don’t recommend that arrangement either.
If you think it doesn’t sound so bad, re-read item #1.